Self Care.

Wow! it has been a very aggressive 2020. Some of us want the year to end already. A year we were all excited to be ushered into with loads of goals.

It is so obvious that this year has a mind of its own and is un-apologetically rolling out its agenda, ignoring our goals and dreams.

As aggressive and scary as this year might be, it could be a year that is wrapped up with huge harvest of blessings and abundance. Amen!

Stay positive!

Now, with all that is happening, our mental health which is the power house of all humans, is being stressed and challenged.

Girl, I don't know how you have been staying sane if you have been skipping on your "Spiritual Spa" aka Quiet Time ( I did a blog on that. Please check previous blog posts).

For me, faithfully observing my Spiritual Spa among other life styles, has been a life saver!

Looking at all the intensity currently bombarding us globally, I thought to myself how do I and my girls stay healthy despite all the happenings because, we can not totally shut down from our environment which could be dangerous.

Thinking......Self Care zooms in. Yes ladies SELF CARE.

Can I ask you a question - Have you been kind to yourself through out this intense period? Have you been taking some time off activities that put you under a lot of pressure? Have you been eating right, drinking enough water, taking your baths daily or skipping baths? For those of us still on lock down since no one is stopping by to say hello. The bathing part could be surprising but true LOL.

I think I hear my lady whisper - "What is self care Ruth?"

OK. Self Care is simply an activity or activities that we do DELIBERATELY in order to take care of our mental, emotional and physical health.

The word that stands out here for me is "deliberately". This means that, self care is an intentional practice. It is not something one skips today and adheres to tomorrow. It is a life style that requires faithful follow through always.

The Lord is my Light!

Self Care helps in giving us better moods, stress reduction or elimination, anxiety elimination, enhanced health and a spectacular well being!

You could be like, please I don't have time for all this self care wahala. I just want to make money and enjoy myself. My question is, do you want to stay alive wealthy and in good health to enjoy the fruits of your hard work or would you rather be stressed out even with your wealth battling an illness you could have avoided?

I don't know about you, I want my sexy self to still be exchanging bags and talking about the latest brand of perfume or scented candles with my grand babies when I am 85 years old #sexygrandma LOL

It is important to note that self care has to be personal in the sense that, it has to be a culture that is suitable or comfortable for you.

Your self care plan or culture has to hug your personality not compete or copy your next door neighbour or trend.

A plan without action is a wast of precious time. So, after planing, ACTION.

Really trying hard to make this very interesting and less technical so that we can all enjoy this convo and level up on self care.

Here are some aspects of my life where I apply self care. This doesn't have to be your method but please read and reflect on these aspects to help you create yours or upgrade your self care culture.

• Psychological self-care : This has to do with our mind and behaviour. One self care culture that has helped me in taking care of my psyche is Quiet Time. I also call it spiritual spa. Here, I worship, dance, study my word, stay still, meditate and be OPEN with GOD. No room for acting because God can be trusted. I pour out to God without holding anything back and receive mental nutrient and strength to keep going.  Secondly, set boundaries - I only allow people or events that edify me access to my space. Thirdly, social media fast is another psychological self care that I indulge in. Stay of social media some times.  

• Emotional self-care : The very effective emotional self care culture that has helped me emotionally is listening and walking with the Holy Spirit. He has a way of checking my emotions when I am plotting that "rip her off" action lol. A second emotional self care culture is, positive confessions. I like to speak all the attributes of love to myself every morning - I am patient, I am kind, I don't envy, I don't boast, I am not proud, I am not rude etc. I journal a lot too. It helps me vent and express my feelings instead of suppressing how I feel. Sometimes, I let myself cry when my heart feels heavy and I always feel so light once am done. I laugh a lot too. Great emotional care culture lol.

You are worthy!

• Spiritual self care : Worship - super helpful. I can remember when I lost my Mum and could't pray, worship was my medium of communication with God. Another spiritual self care culture is, the intentional act of trusting God. This takes all the burden that could have over whelmed me. I also meditate and listen to my favourite preachers online. 

• Physical self-care : SLEEP. I love sleep LOL. Eat healthy. Eat plenty fruits, veggies and greens. Drink water. I stay away from gossip. I mind my business no amebo ( gossip) gang. Exercise - I do the really simple ones especially this period of reduced movement. I am currently researching on the Vitamins that I can take. 

• Relationship self-care : Connect with people both online and off line who add value to you. I thoroughly define relationships with the opposite sex - Yes girl, protect your heart! I make God's word the standard of my relationship to protect me - No sex No Soul Ties!  LOL. 

So Ladies, I hope this inspires you to create your self care culture if you don't have one. Also remember that, it is not enough to create one, we have to inject ACTION. 

Self Care is essential for a WHOLE YOU. 

"Don't you realise that all of you together are the temple of God and that the spirit of God lives in you? God will destroy anyone who destroys this temple. For God's temple is holy, and you are that temple" - 1 Corinthians 4vs16-17. 

Thank you for reading!

I Love you!

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