Have You Met You: Date You Yes You!

I once heard someone say- "Anytime I am asked to introduce myself, I totally forget who I am" LOL. I guess a lot of us are on this table but no judgement - Right? YES!

As singles, it is possible that we have heard this a lot that it has become annoying - "Date yourself". The truth is, it doesn't matter how irritated or tired we are of hearing this, it is a MUST done for us singles. We frequently hear "Me time", yes, this is what dating you is all about. 

Dating you as a single simply means getting to know yourself, exploring your personality, discover your strength and weaknesses, your purpose, passion, your taste, style, uniqueness and balance. 

Dating you gives you the rare adventure of exploring the Social, Spiritual, Intellectual, Domestic and Career aspects of you before someone tags along. 

Been single can be very boring when all we do is imagining that every cute guy in Suit is "the one". It can leave us feeling like the prodigal's son elder brother when all we do is stalk all the oooooohs and Awwwwws proposal videos on Bellanaija without rocking that cute purple dress, neatly polished toe and fingernails plus that perfume you have been penny-pinching for the past two years and that cute sandal your bestie gifted you on your birthday to see that movie of Adesuwa kicking asses lol. 

Not dating you could lead to being a gorgeous timid girl who attracts plenty attention without been able to sustain it. Girl, your beauty started a conversation that only your personality can keep going..... 

Imagine meeting my dream guy and he asks - "Where do you love to eat" Me - " I don't know" then I break out in my local laugh lol and add - "In short I am not choosy, anywhere is fine by me". Him - "What do you do for fun during weekends" Me - "I just sleep and eat and then bath in the evening and eat again then sleep again". Him - "What books do you love to read", Me - "Reading is not part of my thing ooooo but I love Joroo's blog". HELL NO!!!! 

Someone once said that dating ourselves when we are single can be a delightful memorable experience rather than just going along without creating memories and occasionally lamenting our status as UNATTACHED. 

Dressed and stepping out for a ME-DATE at Kilishi Park @ Abuja Nigeria

  Here are a few things I explore and hope to explore in MEETING ME:

• Paying attention to ME instead of being consumed with the thought of Mr. Right and the Diamond Ring.

• Movie Dates with Jesus lol

• Dress Play Dates- try out clothes from your box or wardrobe, colour combination and style combination.

• Eat out with a good book or Bible

• Ice cream dates
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• Smoothie Tour Dates

• Game dates

• Long walks at the park or site seeing dates- You could pray in tongues or reflect as you walk. You can also clear your head letting JOY sit in your heart while your wear that radiant smile.

• Interrupt your day with frequent "Lord I Love You"- practise it on Him as you would be doing that a lot to Booboaz lol. Groom your affection by pouring it on the Lord. Treat Him as "The One".

• Window shop for clothes, accessories, books, perfumes, and other stuff you fancy. You can sip water, smoothie or juice as you window shop or really shop lol.

• Beach date and write a letter to yourself and one to God too. Let it be affectionate- This helps us reflect, be more self aware, and fall in love with the details of us while we deepen our love for God as we learn that we are WORTHY and CANT SETTLE. 

• See going to the salon for your hair and nails as a date to PAMPER YOU and not just a ritual or mandate to look good for people to see. ENJOY your hair and nail appointments.

• Spa dates.

• Off-the-phone dates at an open place like a mall to see trends and styles especially when you do an 8-5pm.

• New adventurous dates or out of comfort zone dates.

• Meet people and smile. 

• Kiroky - Sing/ Dance/ Play.

I am also guilty of falling short of most of these but hey, we learn and grow everyday. I am more of a movie date with Jesus, eat out, ice cream/ smoothie date, hair/ nail pamper date and trend watching date kind of girl but, I promise to do more. Hope you will too lol. Accountable Partners Right!!!

Let's be INTENTIONAL. 

Finally babes Ok let's put our hands up and say together- "On my honour I promise to MEET ME and have an unstammering boldness and confidence of who I am, who my Purpose buddy and Purpose Ride Mate should be, so help me God"

Thanks for reading through and you can comment with other "MEETING ME DATES" options that we can try out or explore. 

"I Praise you because I am Fearfully and Wonderfully Made; Your Works are Wonderful, I Know that full Well" - Psalm 139vs14

Take Care of You 😊

Hugs&HighFive 💕

Your Single Buddy💝💝